I am also a wellness coach because of all that I learned about myself when addressing my own original wounds. 

For many years, I considered any personal failure proof of my inability and a reason to shame myself. Failure was never a positive learning opportunity, only a negative result of my “lack” - my “not enough.” I labeled myself a failure when I finally left my first marriage, despite the reality of why - years of abuse, which perpetuated my shaming and self-degrading mindset. I tore myself to pieces every morning, after a night of attempting to ease my shame and discomfort through momentary pleasures that instead were destructive forces further shattering me. I shamed my body for years, trying to remedy everything that was “my fault” through perfectionism and restrictions - assuming self-punishment would at some point cure my failures. For years, I further broke the already shattered pieces of my heart and identity, in an attempt to make right my perceived failures. Out of fear and habit, I chose to live in the captivity and bondage, once placed around me by another. 

It wasn’t until I stepped into the process of facing myself and allowed myself grace that my perspective and actions changed. It wasn’t until I looked at myself through the lens of this endless grace and saw that I was learning, not failing. And when I began to replace my degradation with these words of grace and love, the heap of ashes that was once my identity began to rise into beauty and new life. I began to ask myself, what if I started calling my failures learning opportunities? And what if instead of running from these learning opportunities, I pushed into them, expectant and excited for a growth spurt? In this surrender, I was transformed, and all of my “failures” were redeemed and rewritten as powerful sentences in my greater story.

I don’t have all the answers - at all - I simply have my story thus far, this perspective of grace and the powerful moments of redemption to encourage and equip you. It is by grace alone that I stand in my identity today. And it is my heart’s passion to help you trust this grace in your own life, so that you too may rise from your ashes into the beauty of your identity.